Clit suckers with Christine Wild: Isolate and Masturbate
IG: @Christinewild_
How can self-pleasure be a form of self-care?
We spend a lot of time in our heads, especially right now with all of the anxiety, stress, uncertainty, and what-if scenarios of isolation. It’s nice to take a bath but you’re still in your head. With a face mask on, your brain is still buzzing. Self-pleasure forces you not to be in your head, but instead be in the present moment.
How can people live an orgasmic life — especially within the confines of our current reality?
If anything, it might be easier now. Whether you are quarantined with your partner or not, you’re stuck with yourself. The shame around masturbation is due to the fact that you have to hide it. Right now, you have time and space to feel what you’re feeling and not rush it, and if you’re alone for long periods of time, who are you hiding from? I personally haven’t felt super sexual during this time though.
What is your relationship like with your pussy? Right now, it’s tumultuous. I feel like my last two periods during quarantine have been hell. I think that when you have to power through your period in normal life, you have adrenaline to push you because you have to do everything and get everything done regardless of you’re bleeding. But the fact that I’m paying more attention to my body and don’t have as many distractions is making me feel more, whether it’s pleasure or pain. There is power in that, so I’m very aware of this thing that has driven me to make so many decisions.
What can women gain by having a relationship with themselves?
Intuition is part of it. And self-exploration. It’s part of your bigger self. If you ignore your pleasure, you’re ignoring part of yourself. What is your vulva asking you for? If it’s asking to be left alone because there are other things you should focus on, or guiding you towards very particular things, listen. We often don’t, as mainstream society, relate sexuality and creativity. They exist in different realms. Knowing what turns you on and what doesn’t changes how your life unfolds. A feeling can spur a thought which changes what you ask from people or who you attract, and ultimately, how you live. Is there something you’ve learned about yourself while in isolation?
I’ve learned not to expect everything from me. Isolation has been a huge wake-up call. I think of myself as someone extremely sexual and have dealt with the repercussions of that for most of my life. I’ve found myself super non-sexual at the beginning of this. When you’re busy and working, the excuse not to feel sexual is that your battery is low. Suddenly, I was rested and didn’t have to perform, but I was still feeling that way. I reached out to see a therapist and it pushed me to try other key pieces of the self-care puzzle, which helped me remember that I can tell my partner to close to the door and leave me alone so I can be with myself and focus on me, whether that’s to take a nap or turn on all six of my clit-suckers.
Christine Wild is a sex-positive, inclusive and wild feminist-in-progress. She is the author of the provocative memoir Just Bad Timing (Wild & Other Words, 2018). Wild also hosts the podcast Running Wild With Christine: Sex, Success and Other Slippery Rabbit Holes, which comes out weekly on Fridays. While her professional life revolves around film making and assistant directing, she is passionate about storytelling in all forms and seeks to encounter other kindred souls across all media.
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